What is important? People or Things?

Our life began with the 60-rupee toy car. When it broke, we cried. Then we upgraded ourselves to the 2000-rupee remote-controlled car. When that got damaged, we wept. Then we were gifted the 20,000 rupee battery-operated car. When that stopped working, we were depressed. Then came the 4-lakh car, after that the 22-lakh SUV, followed by the 86-lakh luxury sedan … And, every time something happened to this machine, whether a scratch or a dent, the mercury of our tensions and worries went up. 

All in all, it seems our toys have grown, but we haven’t. What we cry for has changed, but the crying is still on. Just that our crying is a lot more sophisticated now. It has many new names like anger, disappointment, frustration, stress, anxiety, etc … Toys are there to entertain us. Toys have only one purpose: to be useful to us. 

From your beach house to your SUV to your latest gizmos and everything else … everything exists to make your life more comfortable. You are bigger than every THING you own. You are more precious than every THING you possess. You are more important than every THING that has come into your life. A toy is just a toy. Buy toys. Buy more and more toys. But give them their rightful place. They are just there to be useful to you, to make your life comfortable and to entertain you. Don’t ever waste another drop of your precious tears for a toy, no matter how dear the toy may be. After all, you are the dearest of them all. 

The fact is “We Don’t” and not “We Can’t.” It does not matter how much we have, but what really matters is what we do with what we have. We cannot do much to change what we have, but we can certainly change the way we use what we have. A pawn, if used well, will become the queen.

Make Decision...

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“Make the decision right now. Do you want to be just anybody in life or do you want to be somebody in life? If you want to be just anybody in life, then quit your job and jump on the bandwagon. Merge with the crowd. Get lost in the crowd. However, if you want to be somebody in life, then stand up and be counted. If you live like everybody, you will become like everybody. If you don’t want to be like everybody, then you have to do what nobody has done. Walk the path everybody walks, and you’ll reach the destination everybody reaches. Walk a different path and you’ll create a new destination for yourself.

Relationship...

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If you are happy in life right now, it’s not because everything about your life is necessarily going right, but because a relationship that really matters to you the most is going great. If you are unhappy in life right now, it’s not because everything about your life is going wrong, but because a relationship that really matters to you the most is not going great.

Relationships are like seeds. They have to be nurtured and developed. Expectations are like weeds. They grow on their own accord. When enough investment goes into building a relationship, the expectations in that relationship can be managed. When a relationship is left neglected, then the expectations in that relationship shake the very roots of the relationship. 

Our problem is growing expectations in stagnant relationships. Let us use the metaphor of a savings bank account. Deposits build the reserves in an account from which we can withdraw - but we can withdraw only to the extent we have built the reserves. Similarly, withdrawals in a relationship are possible only to the extent we have made deposits in that relationship. 

In a relationship where there is substantial emotional reserve, mistakes will be tolerated and forgiven, the meaning will be understood even when communication is inadequate, and your intentions will be appreciated even if you fall short in your actions. In all, the relationship will be good because you are considered good. And you are considered good because of the deposits you have made to build the emotional reserves in that relationship.

However, there are some relationships which are taken for granted; the permanence of the relationship is assumed, and nothing is done to nurture the relationship. Expectations continue to rise, but the investments needed to build the relationship are not made with the same continuity. The emotional reserves are overdrawn. In such a scenario, you will be held an offender for every word you speak; every move of yours will be judged; verbal battles and slammed doors will become regular occurrences; neither will your actions be appreciated, nor will your intentions be respected. Such a relationship is like walking on a minefield - it blows up any time and many times. 

The solution is simpler than simple. Deposits, more deposits and many more deposits. No active relationship can be free from withdrawal, but we can always make enough deposits. That on which you invest time grows. Relationships have to be nurtured with the investment of quality time. Take time to listen and to understand. As often as possible, communicate to be understood. Make your love visible by being expressive and demonstrative. Seek to give, but also be graceful in receiving. Receiving is one way of showing your respect for the giver, and it is a huge deposit. Deposit by deposit, build a great relationship and thus earn your happiness in life.

FEAR

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Fears Can Be Unlearned

The fear of failure is learned, usually in early childhood, as a result of destructive criticism from parents and siblings. But because it is learned, it can also be unlearned and replaced with the habit of courage. 

Remember that FEAR stands for False Experiences Appearing Real. The fear of failure is not based on reality, but on imagination. 

Fear is a belief, and as William James of Harvard said, “Belief creates the actual fact.” Ralph Waldo Emerson gave us the antidote to fear. He said, “Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.” If you do the thing you fear, over and over again, eventually it loses all of its power.

K.A.S.H.

Knowledge is the entirety of your experience and learning, and is always growing based on new experience and the acquisition of new information and facts.

Attitudes are the way you think and feel about people and things. They’re reflected in your behavior and emotional responses. 

Skills are partly based on your natural abilities and partly based on your knowledge, experience, and practice of particular activities and tasks.

 Habits are the activities you do automatically and unconsciously. When an action is repeated regularly, it becomes habit.

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1% Better.

 To make significant changes in life, we do not need to make huge things. But the small little change that needs to make every day. Big changes do not require steps, they require small steps daily.

Consider who we are today. If we continue to remain the same for 1 year. If we don’t bring about any changes in ourselves. We will continue to remain the same after 1 year. S, 1365=1. But if we bring 1% change in ourselves, just 1% change. If we bring about this 1% every single day for 1 year. By the end of the 1 year, we would have brought about a change of 37 % within us. Because 1.01365 =37.78

Now, this is very important. When we change by 1% each day in the positive direction. Then in 365 days, we would have made 37% changes in ourselves. But if we change by 1% each day in the opposite direction, which means down by only 1% each day daily basis i.e., 0.99365=0.03, which is as good as 0.

Compare the difference. Just a 1% change on the positive side, will result in a 37% change by the end of the 1 year. However, a 1% change in the negative direction, will result only in a 0.03% change by the end of 1 year. This 1% is very important.

So, to make a big change, we need to do small steps. That step needs to be taken every day. We might feel that if we don’t do anything, then if we are at 1 today, after 365 days we will continue to be at 1. But that cannot happen. Because, if we do not raise by 1% daily. There are big chances that we will slip down a little bit. Because of the influence of the vibrations in our environment, influences of people and situations. We are not alone or Isolated? Isn’t it? We are surrounded by the vibrations of people's situations, the environment, and the world itself. We cannot predict the situations, people’s behavior. But if I will get surrounded by a lower vibration, then there are big chances of the 1% dip in my state, happening.

Our protection lies in the fact that we continue to increase our 1% upwards. And every day we need to continue to increase it by 1% the little increment of 1% which we will bring in ourselves. Think about it. Doing it for 365 days. If you recall, we had met 365 days ago as well, and again we will meet 365 days later. And we greet each other a Happy New Year. But the next time we meet, that New Year would have brought about a master shift within us. Only because of these little 1% changes. Which we will make in every day our state of mind. And when we do that, we don’t need to worry about how 2021 would be….How 2022 would be…We will not have to wait for them. We will not think about how the exams will be. Our focus will be only and only on our preparations. To make significant changes in life, we do not need to make huge things. But the small little change that needs to make every day. Big changes do not require steps, they require small steps daily.

Consider who we are today. If we continue to remain the same for 1 year. If we don’t bring about any changes in ourselves. We will continue to remain the same after 1 year. S, 1365=1. But if we bring 1% change in ourselves, just 1% change. If we bring about this 1% every single day for 1 year. By the end of the 1 year, we would have brought about a change of 37 % within us. Because 1.01365 =37.78

Now, this is very important. When we change by 1% each day in the positive direction. Then in 365 days, we would have made 37% changes in ourselves. But if we change by 1% each day in the opposite direction, which means down by only 1% each day daily basis i.e., 0.99365=0.03, which is as good as 0.

Compare the difference. Just a 1% change on the positive side, will result in a 37% change by the end of the 1 year. However, a 1% change in the negative direction, will result only in a 0.03% change by the end of 1 year. This 1% is very important.

SO, to make a big change, we need to do small steps. That step needs to be taken every day. We might feel that if we don’t do anything, then if we are at 1 today, after 365 days we will continue to be at 1. But that cannot happen. Because, if we do not raise by 1% daily. There are big chances that we will slip down a little bit. Because of the influence of the vibrations in our environment, influences of people and situations. We are not alone or Isolated? Isn’t it? We are surrounded by the vibrations of people's situations, the environment, and the world itself. We cannot predict the situations, people’s behavior. But if I will get surrounded by a lower vibration, then there are big chances of the 1% dip in my state, happening.

Our protection lies in the fact that we continue to increase our 1% upwards. And every day we need to continue to increase it by 1% the little increment of 1% which we will bring in ourselves. Think about it. Doing it for 365 days. If you recall, we had met 365 days ago as well, and again we will meet 365 days later. And we greet each other a Happy New Year. But the next time we meet, that New Year would have brought about a master shift within us. Only because of these little 1% changes. Which we will make in every day our state of mind. And when we do that, we don’t need to worry about how 2021 would be….How 2022 would be…We will not have to wait for them. We will not think about how the exams will be. Our focus will be only and only on our preparations.